For most families, spending quality time together is one of their most valued priorities.  Yet, with everyone’s busy schedules taking family members in all different directions on a daily basis, it often seems one of the most difficult priority items to accomplish.  If spending quality time together each night is a non-negotiable value for your family, then it is important that each family member, especially the parents, fully commit to making it happen.  One of the best ways for parents to model the importance of family time, is by shutting off work when they walk through the front door at night (or when they break for dinner, if working from home), at least until the kids are tucked into bed.  Being totally present with your children shows them they are your top priority during that time of your day together, and you’ll all enjoy it much more than stolen, agitated moments between e-mails and cell phone calls.

Also, try to avoid spending your family time always doing things side-by-side, such as watching television or playing video games together.  Rather, try mixing it up a little with activities that more fully engage everyone – do a family puzzle or craft, play charades, plan a puppet or talent show, make-up a “round-robin” narrated story where each person takes a turn adding a sentence at a time, create a “_(Name)_ Family Adventure Book” where you record pictures and memorabilia from every day family experiences and triumphs, as well as family vacations and celebrations.  The possibilities are endless, so explore what appeals most to your own family and involve everyone in the process of choosing what to do.  Most importantly, use that time together to really connect – discuss what went well and not-so-well in everyone’s day, inquire about school activities and friends, share dreams, express concerns, learn what’s on each others’ minds.  Family quality time provides the perfect opportunity for recognizing, validating, and celebrating each family member’s unique gifts.  From the youngest to the oldest, each family member has their own life experiences and lessons to share, from which the entire family can learn and grow.  So, make the commitment, be creative, and enjoy some family time today!